Journal prompts for queer grief
Grief doesn’t follow rules — and neither do we, dangit! These journal prompts are crafted for queer hearts navigating loss in all its forms: family, identity, community, and becoming. There’s space for your anger, softness, resilience, and longing. Use these as gentle invitations, not assignments — take what speaks to you and leave the rest. Are there other questions you would add? Please leave them in the comments if you feel moved.
What did I lose that others might not recognize as grief? (e.g., chosen family, sense of safety, identity milestones, spiritual community)
How does my queerness shape the way I grieve — and how I am allowed to grieve?
What messages did I receive (explicitly or implicitly) about who I was “allowed” to mourn or care deeply about? How do those messages still affect me today?
Who has shown up for me in my grief — and who hasn’t? What does that say about the kind of support I need or want?
What rituals (new or old) feel like they could honor both my grief and my queer identity?
In what ways does my grief intersect with shame, pride, fear, or resilience?
Can I trace where those feelings come from?
How have I carried grief in my body, and what would it feel like to let some of that go — or simply set it down for a while?
What parts of myself have I had to grieve in order to become more fully who I am today?
If I could speak to the person or version of myself I’m grieving, what would I want them to know?
What would they say to me?
What does queer joy look like alongside my grief — not instead of it, but right next to it?
